And when you speak less and listen more, you avoid inadvertently insulting someone through miscommunication. If you can take a real interest in what the people around you are saying, you'll be less likely to butt in or drone on and on. I stay actively engaged, but if I am quickly cut off I just shut down and withdraw into myself. And most of the time when i have conversation with extrovert people, theire words are like stucked in my mind, so I m full and I dont have much energie working on my stuff. Learn to navigate social situations. Read on for another quiz question. It's just to give some sort of response, so you can proceed to move on to another topic.
I know exactly what you mean!!! Those of us who talk less with others have a tendency to talk more with themselves, building a healthy friendship with the people they are. I find it hard to feel comfortable around new people I just see glazes of judgement in their faces. Thanks for your blog, Michaela. Like I said: Everybody likes a good mystery. Although I do wish people would talk to me more or allow me to express my thoughts and feelings more.
When they dont even pick up on it themselves. ? In my opinion there is nothing wrong with being quiet. It's important for you to reframe the context of these memories. Giving a short presentation at school. This also causes me to be lonely.
However I also feel more whole and at peace and happy with my own company and no one else around. I scored 10pts above the national average on both of my registries. Because that will lead to long-term misery. Just click here to register. What excites you in your day-to-day life? Avoiding that person to whatever extent possible isn't a sign of social anxiety, so much as you taking smart steps to protect yourself! Like I dont really know what Im here for. I believe that what my friends talk about dont interest me and if i pretend to be interested that will make me feel like im being fake so i dont really show much interest. All these wonderful traits makes them more approachable and appealing.
Look, if you have some form of autism spectrum disorder or Tourette's, then of course that's going to be a real problem that can't be solved with just practice and common sense, but being quiet isn't either of those things. I am like how the heck do these guys talk back to back getting involved with each other. He graduated from the American School of Professional Psychology in 2011. Not the answer you're looking for? And im not also interested to talk about other people life situations issues. Yeah sometimes i want to be by myself when Im doing certain things but not all the time. Good writers: We express better while writing, or only open up in front of the people we trust, like the layers of an onion.
This article was co-authored by. So, until the current public acception of shy and reserved being undesirable characteristics, how about: Thoughtful, conscientious. On the flipside, I have been known as the loud mouth, as well; figure that one out. All these people that responded to your question acknowledge the many wonderful and valuable attributes that parallel being shy and reserved. To be honest, my friends are too busy attention seeking to notice the quieter ones of us not participating iin the conversation. People instinctively understand that some of us are bit slow to warm up to new company.
It's a lot less trouble than explaining all this. Reserved means quiet, as in the person doesn't talk much. Or you could get lost in your head and distracted by your own thoughts and daydreams. How about the loud, confident people actually took the time to allow shy people to open up and speak, rather than yabbering on about themselves to other self important asswipes. Like who the fuck cares if your having problems with your husband? Yet, I remain quiet, and angelically tender, and maybe even coy, most of the times, seldom speaking, but believe me, when I do, they say that I speak volumes.
But I should think about my feelings first. Some like outgoing, colorful and loud partners while others prefer the other side of the spectrum. Recognizing and understanding how you feel about a person, idea, or subject is an important part of cultivating self-awareness, which can help you better navigate the world. Or the background story of childhood and young adult life. . It allows you to do less talking and more observing.